How to Learn to Love Yourself
Are you HONESTLY Loving yourself?
The Unloving Spirit is just the opposite of all that God has ordained us to be. The unloving spirit’s work to separate us from God, self and others and then have us hate ourselves and believe that God loves others but not ourselves by barraging us with lies about who we are, what people think of us, and lies about what God thinks of us.
These spirits are assigned to undermine our self-esteem and our ability to trust in a loving God. America, when asked these questions “Do you love yourself?”, “Do you like yourself”? – 70% replied “NO”! Matt. 19:19 is really clear what we are to do..(Commandment, not a suggestion). We are to love OURSELVES, and then love others. You cannot give out what you do not have!
Please answer these questions, honestly. No one but you and God can see them.
1. Do you love yourself?
2. Do you accept every thing about you as God created you (your looks, your body, etc.) or do you wish you could change something about yourself? Did you know you are made in the image of God and if you cannot accept your body, then you are slapping the Lord in the face saying “you made a mistake.”
3. Do you accept yourself right now?
4. Are you mad at yourself and/or resent self?
5. Have you done something in the past that you cannot forgive yourself for?
6. Do you wrestle with guilt and in self-condemnation?
7. Do you struggle with shame?
8.Do you harbor blame?
9.When you drop something, do you curse yourself with words “I’m stupid”, “what’s wrong with me”, I’m so clumsy”? That is a sign of an unloving spirit.
10.List how you feel about yourself and LIST all the things you don’t like about yourself. For example: Are there are things about you that you cannot change? You say, it’s just the way I am. And if I’m to change, it will take a miracle from God. Can you accept those things right now? Are you hiding from God because of the way you are? How do you see yourself in God’s eyes?
11.You cannot leave the house without your face done, hair perfect and nails painted? People accuse you of being vain.
Did you know that Jesus said the “greatest commandment’ includes loving yourself? Luke 10:27 He answered: “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’; and, ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.” They will know we are Christians by our love? Yes, your ability to LOVE is far more important that any gift, talent, skill, calling or resume.
God’s plan is for us to love God and to love others and as we love ourselves. His plan is to reconcile us to Himself, to others and to ourselves, in a new oneness. The problem is that most of us have not received Father God’s love and do not know how to love ourselves. We measure ourselves by our performance and others too. Maybe you grew up in a critical home or a self-conscious home? You grew up in a home worrying what others think instead of having peace with yourself of who you?
The devil’s plan has always been to separate you from others, from God, from yourself and ultimately to destroy your ability to love. He seeks to erode our love by attacking us through others and through our own minds. Usually, how we see God, has been distorted by our perceptions of human father figures around us. The devil’s goal is to block us from seeing God’s love and seeing ourselves as God sees us. Psalm 139:14 “I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.”
“Peace comes from contentment of accepting who I am at the moment in time I am living right now!”
If we were content about who we are, our relationships with others and with our God, we would have Peace! The Unloving Spirit gets you focused on self (going inward or looking backwards).
Dear Lord Jesus, I recognize that I have been believing the lies of the devil and repent for coming into agreement with him. In the name of Jesus, I renounce and break all agreements with his lies and command all these unloving spirits to leave me, to go to dry uninhabited places and never come back. I ask you to fill every empty place in me with your Life and Peace. I choose to receive God’s truth about me: Because of what Jesus Christ has done for me on the cross, God sees me as righteous, holy and blameless in His site. (Ephesians 1:4 and Romans 5:18)
I agree with God’s truth that I am precious, loveable, totally forgiven, unconditionally loved and accepted, completely apart from my performance. I choose to receive all the blessings that I have been afraid to receive. I ask you to restore me to your purposes and plans. Please “restore all the years that the locusts have eaten.” Father God, you love me and have promised you will never leave me. (Romans 8) Amen
Now, it is equally important to receive God’s truth about you instead of each one of these lies. If you would like to download Bible verses about how much God loves you, see below. If you will look yourself in the eye (in the mirror) and agree with God, He will begin to delete the lies and replace them with His truth about you. Try it! GUARANTEE: If you will declare His truths from this love letter, for 40 days; God will “re-parent” you and renew your mind! The Word of God will arm you with truth to defeat the accuser and you will walk in new confidence and victory! Start looking in the mirror every morning and say “I’m a gorgeous hunk of dust!” Start seeing yourself as the Lord sees you!
Whenever you have thoughts against yourself such as self-accusation, self-rejection, self-hatred, etc., then practice 2 Corinthians 10:5 “casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ,” Why! These are negative feelings not from the Lord and it is not His character but the character of Satan’s kingdom – it is a spirit. When the Lord said to Adam, why are you hiding, Adam said “I was afraid, because I was naked.” The Lord said “Who told thee that thou wast naked? That means there was a spirit being with a voice speaking to Adam telling him he was naked after the fall! It came in as a thought and Adam became one with that thought!
Quotes scriptures of who you are!
After you’ve done all this and you still hear the unloving spirit and you agreed with it, then do the 8’rs any time something starts playing in your mind! For example, you have a feeling of insecurity come over you and you pull back because you agreed with it. 1. Recognize you have insecurity, 2. take responsibility – don’t blame others, 3. repent to the Lord since you took in insecurity into your heart, 4. renounce that spirit of insecurity, 5. remove it. Tell the spirit of insecurity to leave and send it to dry places. 6. resist – if it comes back then quote scriptures that pertain to you being accepted, loved and secure in His love, etc. and believe it. Your security is in the Lord and not in people. Get to the place you are not looking to people to make you feel secure or accepted. You are already accepted. 8. rejoice to the Lord that it is not your identity, 9. restore others.
More on the 8rs which are keys to freedom!
1. RECOGNIZE – every thought comes to you comes from some kingdom.
Hebrews 5:8-10 “8though He was a Son, yet He learned obedience by the things which He suffered. 9And having been perfected, He became the author of eternal salvation to all who obey Him, 10called by God as High Priest “according to the order of Melchizedek,”
2 Corinthians 10:4-6 “4For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, 6and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.”
We need to bring every thought captive: We react to every thought that comes into our minds. It changes the chemicals in our mind. We need to learn renewed in my minds and freed from strongholds.
We need to know the promises for us.
1. He did not give us a spirit of fear but of sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7 – For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. Romans 8:15 – For you did not receive the spirit of bondage again to fear, but you received the Spirit of adoption by whom we cry out, “Abba, Father.”
2. He supplies all our needs. Philippians 4:19 “And my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus.”
3. We can do ALL things in Him. Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
2 Corinthians 10:4 “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds” 5casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ”
2. RESPONSIBILITY – regardless how much abuse you have had you are still responsible for your sin.
Psalms 51:2-4 “2 Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin. 3 For I acknowledge my transgressions, And my sin is always before me. 4 Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight– That You may be found just when You speak, And blameless when You judge.”
3. REPENT – I recognize sin and taken responsibility for it and I’m choose to turn from it. I let it go.
1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
4. RENOUNCE – (he was renouncing it very clearly) – Paul did not want to sin.
Romans 7:15-25 “15 For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. 16 If, then, I do what I will not to do, I agree with the law that it is good. 17 But now, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 18 For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. 19 For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice. 20 Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 21 I find then a law, that evil is present with me, the one who wills to do good. 22 For I delight in the law of God according to the inward man. 23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. 24 O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25 I thank God–through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, with the mind I myself serve the law of God, but with the flesh the law of sin.”
5. REMOVE IT –remove the temptation or remove the sin such as rejection, etc.
Mathew 4:1-5, 7-10 “1 Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. 2 And when He had fasted forty days and forty nights, afterward He was hungry. 3 Now when the tempter came to Him, he said, “If You are the Son of God, command that these stones become bread.” 4 But He answered and said, “It is written, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.” 5 Then the devil took Him up into the holy city, set Him on the pinnacle of the temple, 7 Jesus said to him, “It is written again, “You shall not tempt the LORD your God.” 8 Again, the devil took Him up on an exceedingly high mountain, and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their glory. 9 And he said to Him, “All these things I will give You if You will fall down and worship me.” 10 Then Jesus said to him, “Away with you, Satan! For it is written, “You shall worship the LORD your God, and Him only you shall serve.”
6. RESISTED – Accusation will try to come back so resist it. That is why we need to discern good and evil. The Devil gives afflictions.
I Peter 5:6-9 “6 Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, 7casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. 8 Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 9 Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.”
7. REJOYCE – thanksgiving is thanking God for what he has done. Praise is a warfare tool.
8. RESTORE – We need to get involved and become proactive. Isaiah 58:1-14
Scriptures to Look up!
Proverbs 8:22 II Corinthians 3:18 Romans 14:23
John 5:30 Leviticus 19:18 John 7:18
John 17:5 Leviticus 19:34-37 Hebrews 12:2
I Corinthians 4:3 Deuteronomy 6:5-9 Jeremiah 33:8
Titus 1:7 Numbers 13:33 Jeremiah 8:15
II Peter 2:10 Romans 13:16-18 Jeremiah 8:6
II Corinthians 13:5 Romans 13:2 Jeremiah 9:23-24
II Timothy 3:2 Proverbs 28:9 and 13 Jeremiah 10:24
James 1:22 Proverbs 28:25 II Timothy 3:1-12
Leviticus 4:1 Romans 12:10 II Timothy 4:2
Mark 7:9 Proverbs 28:16-18 Jeremiah 10:13
Romans 12:3 Mathew 5:22-25 Jeremiah 14:19-20
Mathew 5:25 II Chronicles 7:14 Romans 5:20
Leviticus 20:7 Luke 11:1 Habakuk 3:16
Job 39:28 Psalm 62:1 II Corinthians 10:5
Ezekial 37 Romans 7:19
by: Traci Morin
Ordained Minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ
Touch of God Healing Ministries (a healing and deliverance ministry located in Dallas, Texas). If you live in the Dallas area, come to Set Free Bible Study and start your journey of healing!
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