Steps To Heal The Broken Heart

Steps to Be Healed and Restored – Part 8

Forgiving Others:

First, make up in your mind to forgive those people that have hurt you. Second, every time a person or time comes to mind that has an ill feeling, submit it to the Lord by asking forgiveness until this thought or feeling stops coming. That is why the Lord said to forgive 70 x 7 (Matthew 18:21-22). The enemy will continue to bring it to mind. You have a choice to forgive and refuse to grab hold on it again. This might go on for weeks because the enemy is an accuser of the saints. So, that is a form of warfare is to continually submit it to the Lord and confess your unforgiveness or ill feelings of a particular person(s) or event to the Lord. This is also renewing the mind because you are taking every thought captive. The enemy likes to torment and throw thoughts and events and people back at us that have hurt you.

Matthew 18:21-22 – “Then Peter came to Him and said, ‘Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?’ Jesus said to him, ‘I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”

Bitterness and unforgiveness can be a generational stronghold. If your parents could not forgive easily, most likely you cannot forgive easily and will need the generational stronghold broken.

Jesus then proceeded to give the Parable of the Unforgiving Servant. When the servant failed to have compassion on his fellow servant, Christ gave this serious warning.

Matthew 18:35 -“So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.”

What is the major point–the main lesson— of Christ’s parable of the unforgiving servant? God requires of each of us that we forgive others their trespasses or offences against us. Allow the Lord to deal with the person that hurt you. Otherwise, unforgiveness will be heavy on your heart and bring separation either from God, others or yourself. It allows the enemy the right to bring torment and also to bring sickness. He has the right because the door is open. You will loose out on your blessing.

Third, be willing to release and bless our enemies and pray for them with a right heart. That does not mean to ask God to expose them to others but to have a right heart. Love covers a multitude of sin (1 Peter 4:8)

Matthew 5:43-45-“You have heard that it was said, “You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.” But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven …”

Separating the offence from the offender can be extremely difficult. Jesus Christ can help us to hate sin – but to love sinners (in the sense that we focus on their future potential when God teaches them His ways).

If you still have a hard time forgiving someone, try to see them that it is the sin in them and not them. What do I mean! Paul said in Romans 7:14-17 that he does those things because the sin that is within him. “14 We know that the law is spiritual; but I am unspiritual, sold as a slave to sin. 15 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do. 16 And if I do what I do not want to do, I agree that the law is good. 17 As it is, it is no longer I myself who do it, but it is sin living in me.”

Forth, see that repentance can a beautiful and positive. Our society has made forgiveness a negative instead of a positive.

Fifth, make it daily or every time someone hurts you or comes to mind. That means taking every thought captive as it was said earlier Ephesians 4:23 — “… be renewed in the spirit of your mind.” Jesus quoted in Matthew 6:9-15 gave the outline in coming to him and how to keep our hearts cleansed and the door shut from the enemy.

Matthew 6:9-15 9 After this manner therefore pray ye: “Our Father which art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name. 10 Thy kingdom come, Thy will be done in earth, as it is in heaven. 11 Give us this day our daily bread. 12 And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors. 13 And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For thine is the kingdom, and the power, and the glory, for ever. Amen. 14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you: 15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

This outline is a way of life and a way of approaching the Father. If we examine our hearts daily and follow these principles and be honest with God, then expect a wonderful and marvelous relationship with God, and others. Unforgiveness is the glue that keeps the wounded heart oozing out with pain.

Forgive Yourself:

Forgiving yourself seems to be more difficult than to forgive others. The process for emotional healing is asking God to forgive you and to cleanse you. You might have done bad things in the past that you feel is unforgivable. The truth is no sin is too big for God to handle that he cannot forgive. Guilt, shame and blame are the primary emotions that accompany someone who has not forgiven themselves. Guilt is a form of self-judgment and self-condemnation that we often impose upon ourselves. It produces anxiety, inferiority, fear, and worry. There might be others and so ask the Lord what is blocking you to accept His forgiveness? The enemy is liar and an accuser and does not want you to let go of your guilt. Accusation is Satan’s greatest tactic to get us to give up on our relationship with God. He accuses us so that we will turn to self-condemnation.

You might have self hatred operating in your life where you cannot accept yourself or see that you are God’s perfect creation. Not accepting yourself is rejecting God’s creation and rejecting yourself or self-rejection. Satan wants you to not like yourself. Satan a liar and the father of all lies (John 8:44 “Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.”)

That is why we need to be able to discern the voices that play in our heads. God is love and will only speak in love and in conviction. Conviction is freeing. It shows us what we need to change in order to step closer to our God. The enemy will accuse you and bring more pain and keep you in bondage. Condemnation drives people to make excuses for their sin, keeping them bound and separated from a close relationship with God. This is why so many people rage against religion, rejecting warnings and clutching their sins ever closer.

Condemnation rejects the person, not the sin. Conviction rejects the sin, not the person. Romans 8:1 powerfully proclaims, “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

The prophet Micah describes God like this: “That is Who is a God like you, who pardons sin and forgives the transgression of the remnant of his inheritance? You do not stay angry forever but delight to show mercy. You will again have compassion on us; you will tread our sins underfoot and hurl all our iniquities into the depths of the sea” (Micah 7:18,19, NIV). The Lord forgave you so you need to forgive yourself. That is why we need to be able to discern the voices that play in our heads. God is love and will only speak in love and in conviction. The enemy will accuse you and bring more pain and keep you in bondage.

Many people with broken hearts need deep healing and need to go to someone that knows how to administer spiritual healing in their lives.

Forgiving God:

It is just as important to forgive God as well as others. Why, because again in the 10 Commandments, Jesus said in Luke 10:27 “He answered: ” ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength and with all your mind’. If not it will put a breach in your spiritual life. The enemy will have you where he wants you to be.

The reason you are not able to forgive God is:

• You didn’t have a godly father on earth. The Lord is your true father who you will be spending eternity with

• You don’t see that He has a plan and a purpose for your life and knows what is best for you because of the pain of the past and having a broken heart.

• You blame God instead of the enemy that is out to kill, steal and destroy YOU!

• You believe the Lord is not for you!

• What happens when we don’t deal with broken hearts/wounded spirit and/or refuse to forgive in all three areas (others, God and you)? The enemy will have a right to access your life in six different areas such as mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, and relationally.

• Separation (others, god and yourself) with the enemy trying to kill, steal and destroy you and your relationship with others and God. You will not be able to draw near because of trust issues.

• You will have a has time trusting other people around you. Sometimes struggle with paranoia.

• Evidence of more curses in our lives than blessings in either or all the areas of mental, physical, spiritual, emotional, relational, and financial problems.

• Suffer from anxiety attacks (emotional, mentally – spirit of fear) problems and sickness in your body because of what anxiety does to the immune system because you are not able to trust the Lord with your whole heart.

• The enemy will cause destruction in your family through your children going into captivity because of unforgiveness, sins and sins of iniquities from forefather. Read Daniel 9 talks about iniquities or sins of the forefather that Daniel dealt with and confessed for the nation of Israel.

• The enemy (spiritually) will rob you of from experiencing joy or peace.

• The enemy will bombard you with temptations to get you to sin and will have problems with addictions (drugs, sex, work, computers, pornography, etc.

• Will not be able to have a victorious life and be depressed and even suffer from suicidal thoughts especially when the storms of life come because he is out to kills, steal and destroy you. You don’t feel justified or have faith or feel hopeless. You will not be able to glorify the Lord in your tribulation.

• God is not able to forgive you and you are not under his protective covering and the enemy has access to your life – mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, and relationally to keep you in pain such tormenting you with flashbacks and nightmares.

• You will most likely be driven to people please striving to prove to the world and yourself that you have value or worth because of low self esteem, shame, a spirit of rejection, abandonment, etc. You will believe the lies of the enemy because you don’t know who you are in Christ and you are listening to the wrong kingdom (spirit of accusation – you are not listening to the voice of love but of hate). You will have strongholds of the mind.

• You will be plagued from different types of diseases.

• You will fight to keep from financial ruin.

Step 4 – Letting go of the past and reaching forward toward the future and the next time someone hurts you.

Philippians 3:13-15-“Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Therefore, let us, as many as are mature, have this mind.”

The memory of the event or person might still be there but the sting can be removed after forgiveness and/or God or someone that can pull the pain up and out removes the pain. The Lord is the restorer of all things. He can take all things and turn it for good. For example, an area you were tormented by the enemy with and you got victory. You now have a testimony to share and encourage others of your victory in Him. You can praise the Lord for what He has done! Then the enemy has no power over you in this area to torment you with.

Just remember to “Keep and guard your heart with all vigilance and above all that you guard (your heart), for out of it flows the springs of life.” (Proverbs 4:23)

How to Keep a Healed and Cleansed Heart and the Enemy Out and Walking in Health – the 8R’s to stay restored!

Recognize – every thought comes to you comes from some kingdom. Is it accusation, guilt, shame, rejection, etc. or is it love. 2 Corinthians 10:4-6 “4For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ, 6and being ready to punish all disobedience when your obedience is fulfilled.” We react to every thought that comes into our minds. It changes the chemicals in our mind. We need to learn renewed in my minds and freed from strongholds.

Responsibility – regardless how much abuse you have had you are still responsible for your sin. If someone hurts you, it is your responsibility to forgive him or her. Psalms 51:2-4 “2Wash me thoroughly from my iniquity, And cleanse me from my sin. 3For I acknowledge my transgressions, And my sin is always before me. 4Against You, You only, have I sinned, And done this evil in Your sight– That You may be found just when You speak, And blameless when You judge.

Repent – I recognize sin and taken responsibility for it and I’m choosing to turn from it. I let it go. 1 John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

Renounce – (he was renouncing it very clearly) – Paul did not want to sin. Romans 7:14-25 “15For what I am doing, I do not understand. For what I will to do, that I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. 16If, then, I do what I will not to do, I agree with the law that it is good. 17But now, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 18For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh) nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to perform what is good I do not find. 19 For the good that I will to do, I do not do; but the evil I will not to do, that I practice. 20 Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells in me. 21 I find then a law, that evil is present with me, the one who wills to do good. 22 For I delight in the law of God according to the inward man. 23 But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. 24 O wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death? 25 I thank God–through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, with the mind I myself serve the law of God, but with the flesh the law of sin.

Remove It – remove the temptation or remove the sin such as rejection, etc. Mathew 4:1-5 “1Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. 2And when He had fasted forty days and forty nights, afterward He was hungry. 3Now when the tempter came to Him, he said, “If You are the Son of God, command that these stones become bread.” 4But He answered and said, “It is written, “Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceeds from the mouth of God.” 5Then the devil took Him up into the holy city, set Him on the pinnacle of the temple, 7Jesus said to him, “It is written again, “You shall not tempt the LORD your God.” 8Again, the devil took Him up on an exceedingly high mountain, and showed Him all the kingdoms of the world and their glory. 9And he said to Him, “All these things I will give You if You will fall down and worship me.” 10Then Jesus said to him, “Away with you, Satan! For it is written, “You shall worship the LORD your God, and Him only you shall serve.”

Resist – Accusation will try to come back so resist it. That is why we need to discern good and evil. The Devil gives afflictions. I Peter 5:6-9 “6Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time, 7casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. 8Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. 9Resist him, steadfast in the faith, knowing that the same sufferings are experienced by your brotherhood in the world.”

Rejoice – thanksgiving is thanking God for what he has done. Praise is a warfare tool. Even if it is not done yet praise him for the healing that is coming.

Restore – We need to get involved and become proactive. If that means sharing your testimony to others to give hope, teaching them and then delivering them as well.

Part 1 – Do You Have A Broken Heart?

Part 2 – Has Anyone Ever Told You that You Have a Broken Heart?

Part 3 – A Broken heart From Life’s Devastation

Part 4 – Broken Heart Negative Thoughts DNA Changed

Part 5 – How Does Someone Get A Broken Heart?

Part 6 – God Wants to Heal Your Broken Heart

Part 7 – Diseases From A Broken Heart

Part 8 – Steps To Heal The Broken Heart

Part 9 – Walking Victorious After Broken Heart Healed

Set Captives Free From Disease

Traci Morin, Ordained Minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ

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