Tired of MEasuring Up and Running Out of Self-Effort Fuel?
Three tiring scenarios.
The underachiever, is the person who “gives u” side of the cycle. Tired, burned out, disillusioned, depressed, addicted. They can be the person that pushes people away physically and emotionally, and push God away spiritually.
The Overachiever, is the person, that never get tired, or let anyone know they are. Their entire lives on “try-hard” ide of the cycle. They are the go-getters, the shakers and movers, the ones who make things happen. They are energetic, enthusiastic and charismatic. They are the workaholics. They’re the ones in families, churches and society that take care of others until someone doesn’t notice, or don’t get the results they want.
The Roller-Coaster, is the person whose lifestyle vacillates from one side of the cycle to the other, like a roller coaster. They go from extremes, love, then hate, hopefulness then despair. When on the verge of success, will give up. They seldom follow through when nothing is expected or even wanted. The successes and failures are determined by the level of fuel at any given moment. When energy level is high, they will work hard or try to meet all the needs around them. When energy level down, they will lapse into a state of disillusionment.
Which one describes you? ______________________________ why ___________________________________________________________________________
THERE IS HOPE AND A WAY OUT OF THIS THINKING:
First, you cannot become right to God on your own good behavior. Three reasons why the law was given.
1. the purpose of the law was to convict people of their shortcomings. Romans 3:20b
2. is to convince us that we are helpless to erase our own defectiveness. No one can come to God by following the law. Gal. 3:22, Rom. 11:32.
3. The law is the final one dealing with God’s gracious effort to bring people into a relationship with himself. Rom. 11:32. God has provided a way of coming into a right relationship with Him. All mankind’s systems are about earning acceptance, proving value, gaining approval. God is the only one with a system that offers acceptance and value at His own expense. Read Matt. 5:17.
How? When a person comes to faith in Christ, and makes Him their basis of live, value and identity, it means the Law has done its job. Rom. 10:4 – For Christ is the end of the law, that every one who has faith may be justified.” If you are still striving to feel that you are good enough, you are either in a blind bondage to the world’s or religion’s idols, not realizing you can be free.
Earning Isn’t Necessary:
Most people with shame have incredibly negative thoughts playing and replaying in their heads about God because they have been abused in his name. The solution is resting in what God has already done through Jesus Christ, Eph.1:4. God’s stance toward wounded, tired people is one of compassion, grace and forgiveness. As our Father, he is our healer and provider. Even if your parents rejected you, you have Father who has chosen you, just as you are.
The fight is not a fight to produce better behavior, but it is characterized by fighting to believe what is true about you because of what God has done; it’s a fight to decide to live in a manner that’s consistent with these new messages. This is done by transforming your mind and accepting your acceptance. When you accepted Christ, you became a new creation and an heir.
LIES THAT KEEP US IN BONDAGE
THE LIE THAT BINDS
THE TRUTH THAT SETS FREE
I NEED TO TRY HARDER AND HARDER
I NEED TO TRUST CHRIST TO EXPRESS HIMSELF THROUGH ME
I AM STRONG BUT I NEED GOD
TO HELP ME
I AM WEAK BUT MY STRENGTH IS IN CHRIST
I NEED TO LEARN TO COPE
I NEED TO GIVE UP ON MY RESOURCES
I ONLY NEED A PROGRAM OR
I NEED THE PERSON OF CHRIST
I ONLY NEED BIBLICAL PRINCIPLES
I NEED THE LIFE OF CHRIST IN ORDER TO LIVE BIBLICALLY
THE ONLY ISSUE IS BEHAVIOR
THE ISSUE IS IDENTITY
I ONLY NEED MORE COMMITMENT
I NEED TO LET GOD DO WHAT HE WANTS WITH ME
I NEED TO ACHIEVE VICTORY
I NEED TO RECIEVE VICTORY
What does a person need to do in this scenario.
One, you need to come to terms you cannot ever satisfy the person who is demanding and manipulating you in guilt and shame
Two, you need to see or come to terms that no one on earth can satisfy the desire to be loved. No man or woman can truly fill that hole.
Three, if you put expectations on others to meet that void, you are setting up to a lot of hurt because we as people will fail each other.
Fourth, the person you made you jump through hoops to find love through them, you need to forgive them and stop the performance.
Fifth, come to terms that only the Lord Most High can truly fulfill that desire in your heart.
Sixth, realize putting expectations on others to meet acceptance and love is idolatry. It is time for you to repent to the Lord for making people an idol.
Seventh, start building a relationship with the Lord. Get good teaching about the bride of Christ and the Bridegroom. See International House of Prayer Free Teachings by Mike Bickle.
Tired of Measuring Up:
by: Traci Morin Servant, the Ministry of Deliverance Healing
Ordained Minister of the Gospel of Jesus Christ
Touch of God Healing Ministries (Ministry in Dallas Tx). If you live in the Dallas area, come to Set Free Bible Study, North Dallas Ministries, and start your journey of healing! We teach the Word of God, group ministry and personal ministry and walk with you until you are healed body, soul and spirit because the Truth in God’s Word Sets You Free.
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